A Trusty Invisibility Cloak
Maybe it's the Me Too campaign. Or the Harvey Weinstein article. Or a million other moments that are weighing on my mind. A trigger was tripped. And I thought about how in my house growing up, I did everything I could to be invisible. I'd hide everywhere--not for fun, but because hiding was far more advantageous than being seen. If I were invisible, I could avoid the harsh criticism and words that cut deeply.
So I hid.
Behind doors, curtains, in closets, bathrooms, basements, or out riding my bike for miles.
I was constantly in conflict with my true self, who craved expression. Perhaps that's why the written word is so powerful to me. On the page, I could be my own best friend, my protector, my silent champion.
But here's the deal. I moved 3,000 miles away from my family, but a phone call can still send me back, ducking for cover.
Slowly, but surely, the drive to create overtook my need to hide. And that's what this most recent part of my evolution is about. Becoming the person I never had a chance to know. Stepping into the light, realizing I had something worth sharing. And to my own shock, seeing it landed with people!
Yep. I can join the chorus of Me Too, and tell you the story of being gang raped and locked in a room for three days. Or my own family's denial when I filed a police report on a separate incident. "Tell no one." Fine. I was an expert at that already.
But here's the deal. I refuse to stay stuck in the past. Those things are a blip on my timeline. I refuse to drag that shit around anymore.
The lightbulb moment hit when my friend Erin shared with me the Drama Triangle. (Look it up.) With practice, you can trade it in for the Empowerment Triangle...and step by step, one layer at a time, that's where I'm headed. No more victims.
We are EMPOWERED.
We are empowered to tell our truth. To stop living life with a firm grip on the emergency brake. We are empowered to use ALL of our gifts. We are empowered to create. And to love. And to set higher expectations for ourselves...and the ones we love.
Change does not happen without disruption.
Today, give yourself permission.
Because we are done hiding.....