Neither of the editors of SheHasDrive have lost mothers - though one of us is a mother herself. So what can we say about why this subject matters?
Grief is intensely personal, but there is such comfort to be found in sharing it. That’s why, of course, the rituals of so many cultures involve bringing people together. But after the immediate aftermath, after the worst pain, after the first missed birthdays and absent holidays, as Teresa Roos describes, time helps heal us, and the grief comes to us differently.
But then it comes in ways that we might not have expected as life presents new challenges. Sometimes, as Michelle MacKenzie reminds us, it’s in a way that seems small, like missing phone calls that used to irritate. Sometimes, writes Carrie Kelly, it’s through unfolding anxieties about the future and our children.
Even for mothers who share the bond of “mothering without mothers,” the ways in which a mother’s absence is felt varies. Each story shared around this theme is individual, deeply personal.
But when we are ready to share with others, many times we find those moments of recognition that someone else felt that same way, too. And our burden gets a little easier to bear.